The first time I did Embodiment Doula work, it was for a woman in her late eighties who told me the one thing she wanted before she died was an orgasm. She’d never had one. She’d been taught that sex was about the man, and that women’s pleasure wasn’t part of the conversation.
She wasn’t alone. What started as one session became a group of fifteen to twenty women, all over seventy-five, learning for the first time what it felt like to be at home in their own bodies.
That’s where this work began. It’s never really been separate from the death work. They live in the same place.
“I had no idea how much better my body could feel, because I had no idea how performative I was being, even just with myself.”
– A Client
Desire Sex, & Embodiment Support
Embodiment Doula work is consent-centered, kink-aware, and queer-affirming. If those words matter to you, you’re in the right place.
Grief and desire are not opposites. They live in the same body, move through the same nervous system, and get silenced by the same cultural scripts that tell us some experiences are too much, too messy, or too taboo to say out loud.
Since 2022, I’ve been walking with people through exactly those places. The ones culture would rather not name. The ones we perform around, even when we’re alone. This work is about stopping that performance. Not fixing you. Companioning you back to yourself.
Who this is for
You’ve noticed a shift in your desire and don’t know what to do with it. It might be connected to loss, to a relationship change, to aging, to trauma, or to nothing you can easily name.
You’re carrying shame about your body, your pleasure, or what you want. Some of it inherited from religion, family, or culture. Some of it harder to trace.
You’re exploring your identity, your relationship configuration, or your boundaries and you want a space that’s kink-aware, queer-affirming, and genuinely nonclinical.
You want support building a more honest, kinder relationship with your own body. On your terms, at your pace.
What this looks like
We start with consent. Every session, every topic, every practice. You set the pace and the boundaries, and nothing moves forward without your clear yes.
From there, sessions are conversation-based and guided by what you actually need. We might talk through desire and libido shifts, erotic self-trust, boundaries and how to communicate them, shame and religious residue, body-story repair, or identity and relationship exploration.
There’s also space for the things that go unsaid. The feelings about your body or your desire that feel too complicated, too shameful, or too strange to say anywhere else. Those are often exactly where the most important work lives.
For those who are interested, I bring somatic and embodiment practices into sessions. These are body-based tools for reconnecting with sensation, safety, and self-trust. They’re an option, never a requirement.
A note on credentials
I’m certified through The Embody Lab in integrative somatic and embodiment work. I’m actively pursuing a PhD in human development and working toward certification with AASECT, deepening both the academic and clinical backbone of what I offer.
I bring this training to every session. And I bring it without moralizing, without performance pressure, and without a framework that treats your body as something to be corrected.
What I’m not
I’m not a therapist, sex therapist, doctor, or religious advisor. This is nonclinical, trauma-aware support. I work alongside clinical professionals, not in place of them.
Adults 18+ only. Not crisis care.
If you’re in crisis or need immediate mental health support, please call or text 988.
Investment
90-minute sessions are $175. Sliding scale is available for desire, sex, and embodiment support, no questions asked. If cost is a barrier, reach out and we’ll find what works.