The origin story of my work as a Taboo Doula begins, like most real stories, at a kitchen sink. I was doing Z’s dishes when she told me her only regret. She was in her 90s, living in a senior community. Her family had originally reached out to me, but she was the one who…
May is a tricky month for grief and me. My mom died in 2007. May was her birth month. It’s also Mother’s Day. And my maternal grandmother, Grandma Becky, died in May two years before my mom did. So every year, May arrives and it’s not just spring. It’s like a carnival funhouse, laughter around…
I still feel every pet I’ve ever lost in my heart, and I still grieve each one. Thunder was the first. She was all black with a white spot on her belly, and I loved her fiercely. She was the first pet that chose me as her own, and she died when I was nine….
Self-pleasure is one of the most powerful tools you have for knowing yourself, healing yourself, and transforming your inner landscape. And yet most of us were taught to treat it like something to be ashamed of, rushed through, or never spoken about in polite company.
What does pleasure actually look like when we stop performing it for someone else? Join us Friday at 6pm for Sex Café: Pleasure Anatomy for All Bodies. All genders, sexualities, and relationship configurations welcome. Free will donation.
Here’s something you might need to hear today: love and rage can coexist.
You can show up with tenderness and still want to scream in your car afterward. You can be devoted and still feel trapped. You can be doing your best and still be angry that this is your life right now.
That doesn’t make you a bad caregiver. It makes you a caregiver who’s telling the truth.
A Sex Café is not a hookup space. It’s a guided, consent-forward conversation circle for honest, human talk about bodies, desire, shame, boundaries, and belonging. Our first gathering is Friday, Jan 16.
Talking about sex, touch, and intimacy after loss Grief and sex. Two things we’re trained to talk about in whispers, if we’re allowed to talk about them at all. But here’s the inconvenient truth: they’re tangled together. Not because grief is “romantic,” and not because sex is some kind of cure. They’re linked because both…
“Sex Cafe? What on earth is that?!” Honestly, that is a fair question. Before I tell you what Sex Cafe is, I need to tell you why it exists at all. From a time even before our great-great-great grandparents, our culture has used sex as a tool to shame and control people. Sex has been…
This season, you are not failing the holidays because you can’t manufacture cheer on command. In this piece, we explore why grief can feel so sharp in November and December, how to set boundaries with people who “just want you to be happy,” and simple rituals and resources to help you build a holiday that honors your loss instead of erasing it.