Talking about sex, touch, and intimacy after loss Grief and sex. Two things we’re trained to talk about in whispers, if we’re allowed to talk about them at all. But here’s the inconvenient truth: they’re tangled together. Not because grief is “romantic,” and not because sex is some kind of cure. They’re linked because both…
“Sex Cafe? What on earth is that?!” Honestly, that is a fair question. Before I tell you what Sex Cafe is, I need to tell you why it exists at all. From a time even before our great-great-great grandparents, our culture has used sex as a tool to shame and control people. Sex has been…
This season, you are not failing the holidays because you can’t manufacture cheer on command. In this piece, we explore why grief can feel so sharp in November and December, how to set boundaries with people who “just want you to be happy,” and simple rituals and resources to help you build a holiday that honors your loss instead of erasing it.
Our culture runs on a patriarchal hangover: gender rules, romance hierarchies, and conquest dressed as virtue. In Rosemary Raven Hearth rooms we unmake that script with consent, ritual, and practical care, both at the deathbed and in the bedroom. Low-pressure circles, chosen family honored, dignity first.
Grief after suicide is heavy and complicated. Tonight’s Death Circle with Pollinate Hive House is a low-pressure space: come to listen, sit quietly, or share if you wish. No requirements. Just a safe, loving room, steady facilitation, and community care. Details and RSVP inside.
I’m Erika Hall. I do my work where culture looks away. I am a Taboo Doula My passions live where culture looks away…death and sex. I created the Taboo Doula path to bring them back into honest light. End-of-life support and embodiment belong together here, alongside open and honest talk about consent, kink, aftercare, safety,…
I’m joining Pollinate Hive House, an inclusive neighborhood home for care. First up: a Death Circle with Charlotte’s Door for suicide-loss survivors on Nov 7 at 6 pm CT.
One of the hardest truths of end of life, illness, or psychological struggle is the circle of “burden.” A diagnosis, cancer, dementia, or something rare and hard to explain, often comes with a shadow that has nothing to do with the illness itself. That shadow whispers: I am a burden. Even without a dramatic diagnosis,…
I don’t know about you, but lately I feel like the whole world is vibrating—just beneath the surface. Buzzing with uncertainty, grief, outrage, and exhaustion. Everything feels too loud and too fragile. Too much, and not enough, all at once. There are days I wake up feeling like I’ve lost the thread. Like I’m carrying…
By Erika Hall, Death DoulaA reflection on acceptance, presence, and the freedom to feel 🌙 Introduction We talk a lot about grief and dying—but we don’t always talk about the rules we silently place on them. There are expectations. Unspoken checklists. Timelines and tones that we believe should be followed. We measure whether someone is…