“Sex and death are two places we should have the most autonomy, and they are often the two places where our voices get the most lost.”
– A Client
Dying & Threshold Support
Death is not the problem. Lost voices are.
Whether you’re the one dying or the one aging toward that horizon, death doula work is about making sure that you stay at the center of your story.
Who is this for?
You’re aging and want someone in your corner before crisis forces the conversation. Someone to help navigate family dynamics, document your wishes, and make sure your voice is on record before others start speaking for you.
You’re dying, and you want a witness. Someone who will sit with you, listen without agenda, and help translate what you need to the people around you.
You’re aging and want to make sure the people you love aren’t left scrambling. You want help preparing them for what’s coming, and you want someone objective to sit with your own feelings about it, outside the weight of family dynamics.
What this looks like
There’s no single format because death doesn’t have one either.
Sometimes it’s conversation: sitting together, listening, making space for what hasn’t been said. Sometimes it’s practical: advance directives, after-death wishes, the logistics that feel impossible to organize mid-grief. Sometimes it’s mediation: being the calm, objective presence in a room full of people who love someone and are terrified of losing them.
My role is to be the voice for the dying. To protect autonomy when it’s most at risk of being swallowed by family demands, medical expectations, or cultural scripts about how death is supposed to go.
What I’m not
I’m not a doctor, nurse, lawyer, or religious advisor. I don’t diagnose, prescribe, provide legal counsel, or offer spiritual direction. I work alongside medical and legal professionals, not in place of them.
If you’re in crisis or need emergency medical support, please contact your care team or 911.
Beyond the First Conversation
One session can be enough. Wishes documented, voice on record, the thing you haven’t been able to say to your family finally said out loud to someone who isn’t in it.
But threshold work tends to come in waves rather than a straight line. There’s the stretch before anything’s urgent, when you’re getting your house in order while you still can. There’s the family conversation that needs someone in the room who isn’t related to anybody. There’s the part where the situation shifts and every plan shifts with it. And there’s the vigil, when the time comes.
Some people work with me on and off across months. Some start early and come back as things change. You book what you need, when you need it. If it turns out you need something steadier than that, we’ll build it together.
Investment
90-minute sessions are $150, $115, or $80. You pick.
$150 is what the work actually costs to do. $115 is for when money’s tight but you’re managing. $80 is for when it isn’t and you’re not. No questions, no proof, no explaining yourself. And you can pick differently next time, because next time might be different.
Pollinate Hive House adds a 15% service fee at booking. That goes to keeping the building running, which is how the room exists.
If none of these work, or if you’d rather trade something you make or something you do, reach out and we’ll figure it out. And if getting to Windsor Heights isn’t workable, whether that’s distance or anything else, reach out and we can meet by video instead.