Weaponized healing spaces and how to recognize them A friend sent me an article recently that made my blood boil. It was reporting from The Cut about OneTaste, a neo-tantric organization now facing federal charges. The organization operated for years. It attracted intelligent, curious, seeking people who wanted genuine healing. And it systematically exploited them….
In the last few weeks I’ve had a handful of conversations with friends, and an ongoing one with my son, that have all echoed each other in ways I’m still sitting with. Different people, different situations, same wall hit at the same place. We were all talking about autonomy. About making real choices. About being…
My very first death doula client came to me through a neighbor of mine. The neighbor thought this woman could use a death doula, and made the introduction. I’ll call her Sassypants here, the name I teasingly used for her, which tells you most of what you need to know about her. In our first…
The origin story of my work as a Taboo Doula begins, like most real stories, at a kitchen sink. I was doing Z’s dishes when she told me her only regret. She was in her 90s, living in a senior community. Her family had originally reached out to me, but she was the one who…
Self-pleasure is one of the most powerful tools you have for knowing yourself, healing yourself, and transforming your inner landscape. And yet most of us were taught to treat it like something to be ashamed of, rushed through, or never spoken about in polite company.
What does pleasure actually look like when we stop performing it for someone else? Join us Friday at 6pm for Sex Café: Pleasure Anatomy for All Bodies. All genders, sexualities, and relationship configurations welcome. Free will donation.
A Sex Café is not a hookup space. It’s a guided, consent-forward conversation circle for honest, human talk about bodies, desire, shame, boundaries, and belonging. Our first gathering is Friday, Jan 16.
Talking about sex, touch, and intimacy after loss Grief and sex. Two things we’re trained to talk about in whispers, if we’re allowed to talk about them at all. But here’s the inconvenient truth: they’re tangled together. Not because grief is “romantic,” and not because sex is some kind of cure. They’re linked because both…
“Sex Cafe? What on earth is that?!” Honestly, that is a fair question. Before I tell you what Sex Cafe is, I need to tell you why it exists at all. From a time even before our great-great-great grandparents, our culture has used sex as a tool to shame and control people. Sex has been…
Our culture runs on a patriarchal hangover: gender rules, romance hierarchies, and conquest dressed as virtue. In Rosemary Raven Hearth rooms we unmake that script with consent, ritual, and practical care, both at the deathbed and in the bedroom. Low-pressure circles, chosen family honored, dignity first.