“Sex and death are two places we should have the most autonomy, and they are often the two places where our voices get the most lost.”
– A Client
Dying & Threshold Support
Death is not the problem. Lost voices are.
Whether you’re the one dying or the one aging toward that horizon, death doula work is about making sure that you stay at the center of your story.
Who is this for?
You’re aging and want someone in your corner before crisis forces the conversation. Someone to help navigate family dynamics, document your wishes, and make sure your voice is on record before others start speaking for you.
You’re dying, and you want a witness. Someone who will sit with you, listen without agenda, and help translate what you need to the people around you.
You’re aging and want to make sure the people you love aren’t left scrambling. You want help preparing them for what’s coming, and you want someone objective to sit with your own feelings about it, outside the weight of family dynamics.
What this looks like
There’s no single format because death doesn’t have one either.
Sometimes it’s conversation: sitting together, listening, making space for what hasn’t been said. Sometimes it’s practical: advance directives, after-death wishes, the logistics that feel impossible to organize mid-grief. Sometimes it’s mediation: being the calm, objective presence in a room full of people who love someone and are terrified of losing them.
My role is to be the voice for the dying. To protect autonomy when it’s most at risk of being swallowed by family demands, medical expectations, or cultural scripts about how death is supposed to go.
What I’m not
I’m not a doctor, nurse, lawyer, or religious advisor. I don’t diagnose, prescribe, provide legal counsel, or offer spiritual direction. I work alongside medical and legal professionals, not in place of them.
If you’re in crisis or need emergency medical support, please contact your care team or 911.
Investment
90-minute sessions are $175. Sliding scale is available for dying and threshold support, no questions asked. If cost is a barrier, reach out and we’ll find what works.